Love

Susan Seddon-Boulet

Do you know that you are beautiful? That the Goddess sings through your voice? That your words are Her words; your song, Her song. That the smoothness of your skin, the glisten of your sweat, your tousled hair – all are a delightful expression of your beauty and your passion. It radiates from you, this glow of pure expression.

May it overwhelm you. May this joy and light be embodied by you and every woman on the planet, a gift to yourself that takes you to the exultant heights of your creativity and ecstasy. For that is what you are. Pure, passionate creation.

May you hear this in the wind, the waves, the whisper of your lover. May you feel it in the warmth of the sun, the flow of your steps, the freshness of your breath. May you know it in your heart, your bones and your belly.

Happy Valentine’s Day.

Another great article from Salon. This columnist, Cary Tennis, writes about all kinds of life issues. I don’t always agree with him, but find him to be humorous and intelligent.

This particular one features the confused cry of a young man attracted to women. Huh? Seems like attraction is something we all have to deal with on some level.

I must admit though, I feel for him. What is this thing that attracts us so deeply, so primally, so sexually? How could it take us so far out of our heads, our regular selves? How could we succumb to outright lust? And really, why does attraction happen? Surprising, uncontrollable, there-it-is, I am attracted to you.

I guess you should go read the column to understand what I’m talking about. I’ve enclosed the question and the beginning of his answer to get you started:

I am a 28-year-old man who is attracted to women, especially to those in my age group. I have been trying to come to terms with this attraction since my early teens. This issue had not bothered me significantly through my teens, but the problem has been worsening over the years. I have been in therapy twice a week (group and one-on-one) for several years now, but I still cannot come to terms with these feelings.

Over the years I’ve had several platonic friendships with women, and have been able to see beyond my physical and emotional desires for them. However, I lately find it increasingly difficult to interact rationally when I first meet a beautiful woman. Over the years, I have taken to indulging in masturbating to pornographic images a few times a week, but I find this behavior shameful and despicable. I often wonder why I am cursed with such feelings, and have grown to hate myself. Could you recommend a solution to this problem?

Attracted to Women

Dear Attracted to Women,

First, my friend: You are not alone. Living in secret, exchanging furtive glances of desire, it is easy to feel that you are alone. But many men have felt as you do and eventually found that they could live happily, sometimes even in the open, with a woman.

The second thing you must understand is that this attraction, however strange it may feel to you, this is not your fault. You were likely born this way… (continue)

As always, feel free to post your comments below. What’s your story of modern love?

Right before Valentine’s Day, The New York Times asked college students to comment on their views about love. Last week, the winning essay, “Want to Be My Boyfriend? Please Define”, was published in the Modern Love column. Fascinating. Disturbing. And not surprising that the old myths of romance and roses seem to have changed. Is this essay a picture of love in the 21st century? Post your comments below. Feel free to email me as well.

Each Sunday from Mother’s Day to Father’s Day, the runners up will be published. I’ll be curious to see if any roses made the cut.

You may have to register with the Times to read the article. Don’t worry: Free and painless.